This blog is the second in a series of three.
The first appeared on 3rd November under the title ‘Change or Die?’
The second appeared on 10th November under the title ‘Stop, but don’t give up’
Stop, understand why, and then…………..
Reality can be a huge shock, looking back from that mirror is a person that you though that you’d known your whole life, but that was just an illusion part created by a mind altering drug.
You are facing the truth of who you really are for the first time in years, maybe the first time ever.
It is entirely possible that you may not feel so great about the truth that you have created. In fact the use of alcohol is one of the most common ways that people attempt to get away from the truth. Perhaps you are a ‘successful’ business executive, with armfuls of cash, an exuberant lifestyle and fabulous material possessions.
But if in your heart that is not who you want to be, it will be of little use. You may have been in denial of the depth of your unhappiness, unsure as to how it can be that with all the wealth in the world you are still just plain miserable.
If you have no idea what really makes you happy then you will have little chance of finding it.
Moving from a place of perpetual misery to the ambition of happiness may require significant change. It may involve difficult conversations with people close to you, expressing how you truly feel, learning to speak from your true self.
Those around you will have their own agendas and the fact that you have stopped drinking may invite them at a subconscious level to question their own relationship with alcohol. It is a question that many are not willing to address and your circle of friends may change. You may find yourself holding a mirror that they are unwilling to look at.
There will be those who do not approve of the real you. It may be worth remembering at this point that you cannot ever control what people think about you, but you can control what you think and feel about other people and their views.
So the third stage of moving away from alcohol addiction is to change the very things that have been driving that addiction. It will require work; the issues are unlikely to resolve themselves.
It can be a daunting, frightening place to be, facing the truth, it represents a chance to get your life where you want in to be, and as it has always been,
It’s your choice.